Us mums ride a rollercoaster of emotions as we try to juggle a million and one different things.
Some days are pretty close to perfection and we’re buoyed by the enormous love we have for our kids and family.
Other days we wonder if it’s possible to make time move faster simply by staring at a clock. It hasn’t worked for me so far.
Mums spend the majority of their time catering for other people’s needs. Not wanting to forget the dads here, I know that in a lot of families dad is a 50/50 partner in the house and raising of kids.
But while I’m on maternity and breastfeeding, it’s been me who’s had the lion’s share of household duties to keep everyone else happy.
This often means sacrificing my needs. I’m the last one to eat, get to sleep, pick what I want on TV and choose what I want to do with family time. On the other hand I’m always the first to wake up in the morning. Hmmmm.
So sometimes us mums need a little something to cheer us up. It doesn’t take much. A simple chore done without us asking for it to be done. A thoughtful little gift, a surprise trip.
It can make all the difference it you’re having a rough time.
These are not necessarily things a partner should do – I stress this point as I’m not husband bashing. They are also things a mum can make time to do for herself. Or things that a friend or other relative could do.
Some of them cost money, most don’t cost anything.
Here’s 100 things to make mums happy:
1. Leave her to use the loo in peace.
2. Get the kids up and dressed and leave her to have a lie in.
3. Give her sole control of the remote control.
4. Do the weekly shop.
5. Do the washing up.
6. Take the kids to the park.
7. Enable her to have a morning off to get her hair done.
8. Treat her to a movie.
9. Cook her favourite meal.
10. Do the vacuuming.
11. Notice the nappies are running low and buy some more. Same goes for loo roll, bread, milk and washing up liquid.
12. Clean the bathroom.
13. Take her out for dinner
14. Book her a surprise trip to a spa.
15. Offer to do bedtime every day for a month.
16. Buy her flowers.
17. Download an hour of Paw Patrol to your tablet and hand your toddler some headphones.
18. Offer to take the kids to a relative’s house/zoo/theme park for the day.
19. Buy her a box of her favourite chocolates/treats.
20. Take her out for cocktails.
21. Take her to the theatre.
22. Organise a summer holiday where the hotel has childcare.
23. Do all the Christmas shopping.
24. Tell her to have a night out with her friends.
25. Cook a surprise meal, something she’s never tried before.
26. Have a barbecue.
27. Plan a mini-break without the kids.
28. Tidy away all the toys at the end of the day.
29. Pick up the sofa cushions.
30. Find an amazing new set of Lego that keeps the children distracted and quiet all afternoon.
31. Buy a bottle of Champagne/prosecco to toast the weekend.
32. Take the toddler to soft play.
33. Do all the night feeds/wake-ups for a week.
34. Have a tea party with the kids.
35. Find somewhere you’ve never been as a family and have a day trip.
36. Go to the zoo.
37. Treat her to a new dress.
38. Plan an occasion when she can wear the dress.
39. Buy her a new bottle of nail polish.
40. Run her a bath.
41. Get her a new book she will love.
42. Arrange for her friends to come over for pizza.
43. Get her a new cookery book.
44. Send the kids to their grandparents for the night.
45. Organise a day trip to the beach.
46. Print and frame the latest family pictures.
47. Fill up the car with petrol.
48. Order her favourite takeaway.
49. Book a mini-break to Cornwall in a family-friendly hotel.
50. Have a movie night at home.
51. Make the beds.
52. Clean the windows.
53. Order her a sweet but small gift, like a small personalised make-up or shopping bag, and have it posted to her so she gets a surprise with the post.
54. Mow the lawn
55. Do the dusting.
56. Remember the things she always forgets.
57. Mop the floors.
58. Fill a hamper with all her favourite foods.
59. Pay her a compliment.
60. Make a jug of Pimms.
61. Make her favourite dessert.
62. Help the kids make a card or other craft gift for her.
63. Give her a voucher to spend at her favourite shop.
64. Head out on a road trip to a different town and spend the day exploring.
65, Make a playlist of her favourite songs.
66. A kiss and a cuddle.
67. Have a clear out and declutter the house.
68. Let her watch Love Island in peace.
69. Take out the rubbish.
70. Make sure her favourite show is on series link on Sky
71. Write her a friendly/funny/supportive text message.
72. Empty the cat litter tray.
73. Arrange childcare and take a trip to London for a grown-ups day out.
74. Bring her breakfast in bed.
75. Wash the car.
76. Make lunch for the following day and put it in the fridge.
77. Put dirty clothes in the laundry hamper.
78. Don’t leave shoes cluttering up the hallway.
79. Set the table.
80. Put away the clean laundry.
81. Pop out to get her favourite coffee/tea/smoothie.
82. Order her to have a duvet day and take the kids out the house.
83. Have a clear out of the children’s mountain of toys and donate some.
84. When people pipe up with well-meaning, but barking mad/insensitive advice, quickly divert the conversation so she doesn’t have to listen to it any more.
85. Feed the cat/dog/goldfish.
86. Hang up your coat.
87. Make sure the remote always has enough battery power.
88. Take her to a concert.
89. Pack the changing bag ready for the next day’s outing.
90. Don’t go to bed mid-row.
91. Flush the toilet.
92. Binge-watch her favourite series with her.
93. Go for a walk.
94. Buy her a new scarf in her favourite colour.
95. Cook her a roast dinner.
96. Ensure visitors and callers do not disturb during nap time.
97. Go for fish and chips on Brighton Pier.
98. Don’t spoil the latest episode of whatever show she needs to catch up on.
99. Pick her some wildflowers.
100. Make the children sleep for 12 hours. Every. Single. Night.
Of all these I would say number 100 is the most important. Which is your favourite? Are there any I’ve missed?