I remember the moment when I first used the word “impossible” in relation to my kids.
My first daughter was barely a week old and we were at home. My house was the place that makes you go to the tip to escape, there were visitors about to arrive in 20 minutes, my daughter needed a nap but screamed every single time I went to put her down, and I needed to pump some milk.
I had no idea how to get it all done, the nap, the expressing, the tidying, the visitors, stopping the crying. I declared it to be “impossible, there just aren’t enough hours in the day”.
That same feeling of being totally out of my depth has returned time and time again over the last three years of my parenting journey.
There was the 13 months surviving on a handful of hours sleep at best after my second child was born.
Some days I felt so tired that I could hardly speak. But I had to keep putting one foot in front of the other, because there was a toddler to potty train and a baby who needed to be fed.
Currently I’m attempting to be a freelance writer and care for my kids seven days a week. Some days it takes me two hours to write 50 words.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a working mum or a stay-at-home mum, we all face daily challenges, stresses, and “oh my god I can’t cope” moments.
So how do mums keep going when it all feels impossible?
The answer is that we just do, because as much as you might plot it in the back of your mind, you can’t really sell your toddler on eBay.
Those kids are yours. Of course your other half, relatives and friends pitch in, but there’s only one mummy and if your kids are anything like mine, they place way more demands on mum than anyone else.
And the key thing to remember is that one day it won’t feel so impossible anymore.
One day your child is pissing on the carpet every 30 minutes. The next they hop on the toilet without you even having to ask.
One day your baby is screaming for four hours straight in the evening. The next they nod off peacefully at 7pm.
One day your kid won’t take a single bite of food. The next they wolf down an entire portion and ask for seconds.
Those challenging phases rear their ugly head way too frequently, but they do pass.
And it’s NOT impossible, because you are doing it. Every single damn day, You are getting up, keeping everyone alive and surviving.
Keep on going mama, you’re doing great.