The perks of being a mum

As mums it’s easy to get your head stuck in the daily parenting routine and find yourself unable to see the wood for the trees.

As a mum you tend to give and give and give for not much return. Your baby certainly doesn’t thank you for staying up with her all night just because she didn’t want to sleep or be left alone.

Your toddler doesn’t apologise for refusing to eat her dinner and then throwing a mega tantrum because she has the “wrong socks” on.

But when you take a step back from the humdrum treadmill of motherhood and look at the bigger picture, there are actually loads of perks to being mum.

Here’s a helpful reminder of some of them:

1. Kids are your get out of jail free card

Picture this. You’re visiting a friend who lives in a house so clean it hasn’t seen a microbe of dust in well over a decade.

The second you take a bite from the beautiful spread of nibbles on offer you realise you’ve dropped a big dollop of dip on the pristine cream carpet. Luckily your toddler is with you and when she does notice the mess, you apologise profusely that the little one hasn’t yet got the hang of eating with much coordination.

They forgive the child, because it’s a child! It saves you the shame of having to admit you’re an adult with worse table manners than a two-year-old.

Spillages can be blamed on the kids

There are various situations where blaming the kids comes in similarly handy. For example when you need to leave a really lame party early, when you’ve forgotten someone’s birthday or when you’re running late, again.

2. The mess

Yes the untidy house can be a big downside, but look at it this way, you have a brilliant excuse for having an unkempt house.

Any tidying up that you do, any cleaning, any organising, just becomes pointless within minutes as the kids dump out another box of toys.

Embrace the chaos and stop cleaning as much. Why fight it?

3. You’re a rock star

Your kids think you are the absolute best person in the whole world. When you enter their room in the morning they’re thrilled to see you. When you collect them from school or nursery they greet you with the biggest smile.

Your children hang on your every word, for the first few years at least. Being funny is easy, cuddles are available on tap and they are always up for hanging out with you.

Being around people who think you’re are the most awesome person in the world feels great.

4. All the treats

You treat them to ice cream, burgers, McDonalds, trips to the beach, a day at the movies and, of course, sweets.

And because you’re obviously at their side as they experience all of these things, it means you also get to enjoy! Being a kid is brilliant fun and full of magical experiences. It’s like getting to do it all over again, but it’s so much more amazing when you’re seeing it through their eyes.

5. The cuteness

When you see a really cute puppy flopping all over the floor, letting rip a big yawn and attempting to chase after an equally cute fluffy kitten, your heart just feels all warm and gooey.

When your newborn baby makes those contented noises and little snores when they’re asleep, that warm and gooey feeling is magnified 100 fold.

There’s a lot of beautiful moments you get to enjoy as a mum and it makes the late nights, temper tantrums and constant battle to keep on top of everything worth it.

6. Being the big kid

It’s acceptable to let loose and be silly. More than that, it’s encouraged because it means you’re engaging with your children on their level.

Run, jump and swing really high. It’s all part of the fun side of parenting.

7. Hibernation

I love nothing better than staying in my pyjamas all day long. Having a baby is the ultimate excuse to just stay indoors. There’s zero pressure on you to get out of the house, except for maybe the odd run to pick up supplies.

Stick on a box set and get comfortable. This baby-rearing business is hard work, so resting up is totally acceptable.

8. Kids’ films

Children’s movies have just got better and better in recent years. There are plenty of jokes in the script that adults will get, the songs are so unbelievably catchy and there are some seriously emotional moments that will make you tear up.

Toy Story, Finding Nemo, Despicable Me and Frozen are among some of the best films made in the last 15 years.

Having kids means you now have perfect excuse to watch these films on loop again and again.

Your children will be as excited as you are to get to the cinema to see the latest Pixar release.

9. Disney World

It’s the happiest place on earth, don’t you know?!

Having kids means trips to places such as Disney World. The rides, the characters, the experience of a family holiday making amazing memories. Having kids means getting to Disney is your holiday goals.

Yes it’s expensive and we’re certainly a few years off having enough in the bank to treat our two, but I can’t wait to do this with them!

10. Letting your hair down is like an Olympic sport

Before kids, a night out was fun but a pretty regular occurrence.

After kids a night out is a major treat and seriously exciting. You drink a little too much, dance that bit crazier and just generally let loose.

In fact, any exclusive grown-up time is a serious cause for celebration. Even getting your hair done is a amazing event because there’s no one demanding a drink, snack or something else from the long list of demands.

Read more: 50 things I love about being a mum

What do you think the best perks of being a mum are? Let me know in the comments!


The 10 perks of being a mother - because it's not all about long nights, cluster feeding and toddler tantrums

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  1. January 3, 2018 / 8:40 am

    I love having a tribe of my own. My kids are adults now and I can guarantee they will be there for me if I need them x #fortheloveofBLOG

  2. January 3, 2018 / 11:42 am

    aww yes I’m sure I blamed my toddler for breaking things / spilling things too hahaha such a relatable post, love it being a mum is so amazing and fun #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. January 3, 2018 / 12:14 pm

    I love that I can use my daughter as an excuse to get out of boring social occasions – “Sorry, I can’t make it – I have to watch my daughter.” Perfect for when you can’t be bothered going out! #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. January 3, 2018 / 2:33 pm

    With 4 kids, I have trained the oldest 3 to help with number 4. Bring me nappies, sing him a song, grab the muslin! I’ve got them whipped now 😉

  5. January 3, 2018 / 3:52 pm

    Definitely on the kids’ films and Disney! The snuggles too. #fortheloveBLOG

  6. January 3, 2018 / 7:31 pm

    Love this post! There’s far too many people discussing the negatives, really nice to read an uplifting and funny post about parenting- thanks for making me smile #fortheloveofblog

  7. January 4, 2018 / 8:05 am

    I do use my son as a reason to not go to things I don’t want to, I know I should really just tell people the plans are my idea of hell but it’s so much easier to blame the kid, oops. My fave thing is the fun days out, we go on an adventure every week, a castle, a park, out to lunch, could be anything but without him I wouldn’t do that. Fab post, love the positivity #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. aliduke79hotmailcom
    January 4, 2018 / 3:18 pm

    Having kids is the best excuse to be a big kid! And I love that we can use them to get out of things lol

  9. January 4, 2018 / 6:33 pm

    Defintley a great excuse for being a big kid and letting your hair down and several visits to Disney World #fortheloveofBLOG

  10. January 4, 2018 / 8:39 pm

    haha I’m with you on hibernation, kids films & get out of jail free card! can also use that one if you want to leave an awkward situation asap… “he’s tired, gotta go!” #fortheloveofblog

  11. January 4, 2018 / 9:41 pm

    I imagine that some points people will agree with here while others wont. Love the rock star part but wouldn’t dream on blaming things on the kids! #fortheloveofBLOG

  12. January 4, 2018 / 11:01 pm

    You nailed it! It is the greatest thing, the hardest thing, and the most worthwhile thing ever! Great post! xoxo #fortheloveofBLOG BTW, I am in my pj’s, working from home, the house is a disaster and a kid show is on! Living the dream! M’wah! xoxo

  13. January 5, 2018 / 1:05 am

    Fun post and well thought out too. Having said that my first thought was “There are perks?!!!!” #fortheloveofblog

  14. January 5, 2018 / 10:15 am

    I think “aaaw sorry I can’t I don’t have a babysitter” is my most used get out of jail free card !!! #fortheloveofBLOG

  15. January 5, 2018 / 7:00 pm

    haha I love this! Kids are the best excuse ever for hibernation – to a point! Once they reach a certain age then you’d do just about anything to get out of the house! #fortheloveofblog

  16. January 5, 2018 / 8:58 pm

    Great post, love Disneyland I keep telling myself it is for the kids benefit but I know it’s really way more exciting for me #fortheloveofBLOG

  17. January 7, 2018 / 1:50 pm

    This puts it all into perspective that there really are some great perks about being a Mum, and who would say no to a McDonalds? Claire x #fortheloveofBLOG

  18. Mainy - myrealfairy
    January 9, 2018 / 12:53 pm

    I love the treats side! I love to make it a big deal and then over indulge till I’m fit to pop!

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